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The Joyful Journey of Marriage

SDA JournalSermonAug 29, 2023

Beloved Brethren, this is a short message to reflect upon the sacred bond of marriage – a journey filled with love, commitment, and shared joy. As we delve into the topic of a happy marriage, let us explore the timeless... (read more)

<p>Beloved Brethren, this is a short message to reflect upon the sacred bond of marriage – a journey filled with love, commitment, and shared joy. As we delve into the topic of a happy marriage, let us explore the timeless principles that guide us in nurturing and cherishing this special relationship.</p>
<blockquote>1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV): "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."</blockquote>
<h4>I. Foundation of Love and Respect:</h4>
<p>A happy marriage is built upon the foundation of love and respect. Just as a strong house needs a solid base, a marriage flourishes when love and respect are its cornerstones. Love is not just an emotion but a conscious choice to put the well-being of your partner before your own. It is patient, kind, and forgiving. Likewise, respect is the recognition of each other's individuality and worth. It involves valuing each other's opinions, feelings, and aspirations.</p>
<h4>II. Effective Communication:</h4>
<p>Communication is the bridge that connects two hearts and minds. In a happy marriage, open and honest communication is essential. Take time to listen to your partner's thoughts and feelings without judgment. Practice active listening – truly hearing what they're saying, not just waiting for your turn to speak. Effective communication also involves expressing your own thoughts and emotions respectfully, fostering a deeper understanding between partners.</p>
<h4>III. Shared Goals and Values:</h4>
<p>A strong marriage is one where partners are united not only in love but also in purpose. Sharing common goals and values helps create a sense of unity and purpose. These shared aspirations become the compass that guides the couple through life's challenges and triumphs. Whether it's in matters of family, career, or personal growth, aligning your ambitions can fortify your bond.</p>
<h4>IV. Embracing Differences:</h4>
<p>No two individuals are exactly alike, and that's what makes a marriage beautiful. Embracing your partner's differences and quirks fosters an environment of acceptance and understanding. Instead of trying to change each other, celebrate the unique qualities that drew you together. Remember, it's the combination of these differences that adds richness and depth to your relationship.</p>
<h4>V. Practicing Gratitude:</h4>
<p>Gratitude is the secret ingredient of a happy marriage. Regularly expressing thankfulness for the little things your partner does can make a world of difference. A simple "thank you" or a heartfelt note can remind both partners of the blessings they bring into each other's lives. Gratitude cultivates a positive atmosphere, strengthening the connection between spouses.</p>
<h4>VI. Weathering Storms Together:</h4>
<p>Life is not without its storms, and a marriage is no exception. The true test of a relationship lies in how partners weather these storms together. Difficulties may arise, but facing them as a team, with unwavering support and commitment, can bring you closer. The storms you conquer together become the chapters of your shared story, reinforcing the strength of your bond.</p>
<h4>VII. Prayer and Unity:</h4>
<p>A strong marriage is one that is bathed in prayer. Praying together as a couple cultivates unity with each other and with God. Inviting God into your marriage allows Him to guide your decisions, provide strength during challenges, and deepen your connection as you grow spiritually together.</p>
<blockquote>Genesis 2:24 (NIV): "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."</blockquote>
<h4>Conclusion:</h4>
<p>In closing, dear friends, a happy marriage is a constant journey, not a final destination. It's a voyage of discovery, growth, and shared experiences. By building upon the foundation of love and respect, fostering effective communication, sharing goals and values, embracing differences, practicing gratitude, and weathering storms together, we can ensure that our marriages are not only sources of joy but also testimonies of enduring love. Let us continually strive to enrich our marriages and create a legacy of love that will inspire generations to come. <em>Amen</em>.</p>

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Husband and wives, stop wasting your time praying

SDA JournalSermonAug 3, 2019

Benson and his wife don't sit next to each other during Church services. Even when going to Church services, they go in different vehicles; and when they travel in the same car, it is usually a very quiet and uncomfortable ride. Benson... (read more)

Benson and his wife don't sit next to each other during Church services.

Even when going to Church services, they go in different vehicles; and when they travel in the same car, it is usually a very quiet and uncomfortable ride.

Benson sat at his usual spot in the Church service; the fourth line on the far left row. His wife sat on the center row.

The Pastor took to the podium.

*"Husbands, stop wasting your time praying"* the Pastor began.

The congregants got alarmed. No one expects to hear a pastor saying prayer is a waste of time.

I am not here to discourage you to pray, but to encourage you to pray right.

Husbands, stop wasting your time praying if you are not treating your wives well.

You come to church driving your expensive cars, giving your offerings and tithes, active in Church, some of you are Church leaders; but how are you treating your wife?

You may look good to us Church members, but it is your wife and children that know who you truly are" said the Pastor.

Benson turned to face his wife. She looked at him. Benson could see her eyes.

Her left eye swollen from the blow he gave her last week when she confronted him about his alcoholism, pornography use and mischievous behavior.

People couldn't tell she had a black eye because of the make up she had on, so well done.

The Pastor continued, "People have perfected the art of cover up. Here in Church, so many are hurting but you wouldn't know.

People come here wearing their nice clothes, shiny smiles, they are active in ministry but hurting a lot in their marriage.

"We have become numb and plastic, brushing things under the carpet. But today we shall heal; and shall address those wounds we hide."

The Pastor cleared his throat and continued, "Many of those who are hurting their spouses are using the church to hide.

They think that because they give offering s and tithes, because they make public prayers, because they read the Word or because they hold a Church leadership position that they are right with God. God is also interested in what you do in your marriage and in your family.

The Word says that when you treat your wife badly, it hinders your prayers. Men, you claim to be prayerful?

Hear this, "Your first ministry is your home. Stop trying to blackmail God with your service in Church yet you are mean and hurtful towards your spouse."

Many of the members of the congregation got restless and unsettled.

The Pastor continued, "Many of those who are being hurt by their spouse hide their pain and want to project an image that all is well to validate that they are blessed and in control.

Some of you are active in Church to run away from the pain in your marriages".

The congregation was silent. Some straightening their ties, others fidgeting with their Bibles, adjusting their sitting position.

This pastor was preaching truth and it was uncomfortable.

The Pastor continued, "The husbands are not the only ones guilty here... Wives, don't you know the Bible says when your husband found you he found good virtuous woman and you brought favour?

Then why are you the source of your husband's headache and stress? Have you been so toxic that you have turned your prayerful husband into a prayer-less one?

Do you make him regret marrying you because you bring more complications than he had before marrying you?

How you treat your husband can be a stumbling block in his walk with God or an environment that encourages growth.

Many of you wives married your individual husbands primarily because of their relationship with God, so why are you now destroying their relationship with God instead of celebrating and nurturing it?

Why are you being a burden to your husband emotionally, spiritually, socially, sexually and financially instead of being one who brings favour?"

Benson's wife looked at her husband. Benson looked at her, and she looked away.

The Pastor paused to drink his glass of water.

And he continued, "When I am thirsty, I drink a glass of water.

When your spouse gets thirsty, will you allow God to use you to bless your spouse?

You've been told many sermons that focus on you as an individual, that God will make you prosper as an individual.

I am here to tell you your blessings are tied to people, you are blessed to be a blessing to others. Our God is not an individualistic God.

Your blessing is tied to your marriage, your family. It's not about you; it is about Jesus and Jesus is about love.

What good is it to prosper and be successful when you have no love? It is all vanity.

God cares about your family, how you treat your spouse and children"

Silence. Silence. Silence...

"Yes, we pray. But what kind of prayers does your spouse pray because of you?

When your spouse prays, is it largely to cry to God because of the hurt you bring?

Is it to plead with God to change you from the monster you've become?

Is it to plead for grace to deal with how difficult you are? Or is to give thanks for you?"

Silence. Silence as grave yard

"Are you really prayerful? Do you really value prayer? What is prayer?

Then why is it that many of you find it easy to come to us pastors for us to pray with you as an individual, you find it is easy to pray in public, in a Church service or Bible study, but find it so hard to pray with your spouse?

Isn't that telling of what is going on in your marriage? Don't you know that the more you pray with your spouse the stronger your marriage will be?

But how can you find it easy to pray with a spouse you hurt or who hurts you?"

The Pastor paused and looked at the congregation. Eyes staring at him.

"I challenge you. I challenge you to pray with your spouse and to treat your spouse well.  You must save your home, your marriage, your love!

Husbands, you are the head of the home. I challenge you to stand up and go to where your wife is and pray with her as a start of a more prayerful chapter in your marriage.

Don't do it because I asked you to but because you want to. Your choice"

One by one, the husbands present stood up.

Benson stood up too.

Benson walked to where his wife was.

The face of Benson's wife overwhelmed with love, she looked on as her husband walked to her.

She almost stood up but he gave hand gestures at her to stay seated.

Benson reached where she sat. Their eyes met.

Benson knelt down. He stared at her then kissed her swollen left eye.

"I am sorry" he said.

"Can I pray with you?" He asked.

She got up from her seat and knelt down too.

There, on the floor as the Church service was still ongoing, husbands prayed with their wives.

Benson prayed kneeling with his wife.

They prayed for forgiveness, for thanksgiving, for love, for renewal, for peace, for direction; for their marriage.

Marriages were healed.

If You have been blessed by this message please share. You might just be saving a marriage at the verge of being broken.

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